Emotional Healing

- including Inner Child Healing

 

For many people there can be no true healing and growth until there is release from painful memories and unhealthy patterns which now interfere with their present attitudes and behaviour. When you deal with these issues your confidence and self-esteem will improve, your relationships will be so much better, and you will be able to let go of harmful habits and thought patterns.

This healing can take place over months, or years, of counselling, or in a very short time using powerful new techniques.

Anxieties, Fears and Phobias have their root in the emotions and are usually caused by one or more 'trigger' experiences. Once accessed, the fear is easier to understand and therefore deal with.

In some cases the process is very quick, and in others it may take some time - it really all depends on how many 'issues' need to be dealt with. Also, sometimes merely remembering the 'trigger' is healing enough, while in others there is some 'working through' to be done.

Each case is different, and in most cases the triggers are fairly minor incidents which were interpreted in a certain way by the client's subconscious mind at the time.

It has to be said that it is not always necessary to find the 'trigger' or cause - in many cases (especially when using EFT) the matter can be resolved easily without ever finding the source.

Bereavement can be devastating to many people and it is often tied up with some form of guilt, unforgiveness or a lack of 'closure'. I can help you to access your higher self and release these emotions at a deeper level than your conscious mind will allow you to. Of course, time is a great healer, but where there are other emotions involved, or you feel you are unable to move on, it is essential that you find the help you need.

Depression can have many causes. It is one of the most debilitating conditions we can find ourselves in. Usually there are multiple causes and we have to deal with them all. Depression at it's most base level, is a result of abnormal chemistry in the brain. However this imbalance can be caused by psychological factors, environmental factors, and physiological factors. Diet is extremely important in dealing with depression. Few people realise just how much a diet high in refined carbohydrates, sugars, coffee or alcohol affects their endocrine balance, and therefore their moods.

Food intolerances are also a major cause of mood disorders due to the way the body is stressed and put out of balance. There is so much more to depression than just taking an anti-depressant, so please let me help you to work through it. You need a life, don't let this get to you!

Emotional Trauma, including childhood abuse, relationship abuse, bullying, or any traumatic event in your life should not be holding you back. PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) can be dealt with in a few sessions. Let us release it and help you to move on!

Confidence and Self-esteem are essential to our lives. However this does NOT mean feeling better than other people, or being arrogant! It is also not 'people pleasing' or being a doormat! Real self-esteem is when you like who you are. People with genuine confidence and self-esteem are likeable and they like other people! They have no need to put others down or try to be 'better'. If you lack confidence or self-esteem, it is probably due to your experiences and the stories you are telling yourself in your head. Let's turn that around and find the real, amazing, you!

Repressed memories are rare, however, during therapy, while you are feeling relaxed and calm, it is usually easy for the subconscious to access them.It is very important to have a skilled counsellor or therapist when dealing with repressed memories. So often whole families have been hurt and ripped apart due to a so-called 'repressed memory' which is, in fact, not true or not the cause of the problem at all.

I have recently heard of a case where a young woman has rejected her father utterly, because, during therapy, she remembered a scene where she saw him naked. The therapist interpreted this to mean that her father had exposed himself to her, and this was the traumatic start of her current problems. The fact that the girl was four, and that it is perfectly normal in many families for parents to dress or bathe in front of small children, seemed to elude her. It seems that no thought was given to how the scene took place - possibly she walked into the bathroom or bedroom at an inappropriate time?

Any other history seemed to be ignored by both client and therapist. There were many other factors which could have been taken into account. The therapist should have investigated the whole situation much more vigorously, but instead this one memory (which may not even have caused any trauma at the time, as she couldn't remember being traumatised) was blamed for all her problems. The result was a broken family! So sad and unnecessary!

This type of thing has happened too many times, and I cannot stress enough how important it is to avoid a therapist who relies solely on recovered memories, as important as they might be for certain clients.

Forgiveness is important! Many people hate the word 'forgiveness', and I know it is very hard to even think about forgiving when somebody has hurt you very badly. The thing is, bitterness and anger only hurt the person who is being bitter and angry!

Bitterness does not bring revenge, nor does it bring healing. Anger is taken out on the wrong people and happiness moves further out of reach with each day that you hold onto all the bile. I never force anybody to forgive - well, I can't make them do anything they don't want to do anyway! However, once a person realises that their unforgiveness is preventing their own happiness, I can help them to find a way through. The most important thing is the realisation that forgiveness is only hurting *you* more. After that, whilst it may seem impossible to you, I can help you to make it a reality and set yourself free forever!

Psychotherapist, Hypnotherapist, EFT, CBT, London, Guildford, Woking, Worplesdon, Fox Corner, Pirbright, St Johns, Knaphill, Ripley, Send, Farnborough, Godalming, Farnham, Byfleet, Lightwater, Weybridge, Cobham, Surrey, Middlesex, Hampshire, contact Gayle

 

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